Bullshit Thread #7

[lostpilot]

Sorry to hear that Kelly.
I hate that we people can be harmed so easily.

[Deftones-argentina]

moreso when the wrong people get harmed.

[Oldnewtype]

so hard for me not to be a dick. i fucking hate cancer.

[devilinside]

My grandmother has to go tomorrow and have a CT scan done,and they're going to put a IV in her chest to begin chemo soon.The cancer is in her pancreatic ducts and part of her stomach.Was told it is incurable,and I am praying like crazy (and for those that know me,know thats a huge feat) that she beats the statistics for this evil disease. My anxiety level right now is way up there. 

i'm sending you a giant hug from all the way up here.

Sorry to hear that Kelly.
I hate that we people can be harmed so easily.

moreso when the wrong people get harmed.

so hard for me not to be a dick. i fucking hate cancer.

I agree,she's the most awesome woman I have ever met,and she doesn't deserve this shit.

<3

[Corleone]

Thats sad, my grandma is going through the same thing. How old is yours?

[devilinside]

I believe she is 75?? I know she's in her 70's,but she's in good shape for her age. I'm flying out on 6/1 to see her for a week. I'm hoping this will not be the last tie I ever see her.

[blixa]

seriously, my life is so messed up right now. i told the guy who i have been sort of blabbing to you about that i cannot be his friend anymore and didn't tell him why. i'm also thinking of seeing a therapist but i know i can't afford one and i have issues talking to people (professional and not) about ~personal~ shit. i have this deep seeded idea that once something is out there and in the open that it is no longer mine therefore i have one less thing that belongs to me that is truly mine.

I AM SICK!!!

[bright lights, big city]

do you actually know why you can't be his friend anymore and chose not to tell him? or was it completely random and impulsive?

[blixa]

i know why i can't be his friend right now but i didn't tell him and i asked him not to ask me because i couldn't tell him. i have inappropriate feelings for him and i'm not sure what my feelings are but they are not of a 'just friends' nature. it's strange. we went out with our mutual friends a few nights ago and he spilt beer on his hand and then wiped his hand on my jeans and for the first time i didn't shudder at the fact that someone had touched me. i usually don't like being touched. he spent the whole night discreetly bringing my chair closer and closer to him. but alas! i texted him that we couldn't talk or be friends right now and he asked me, "is this a joke?" and it broke my fucking heart. i miss him lots. i've realised that i feel the same way now as i did when we were still friends, which is fucking confused and very sad. i haven't seen him so i don't know what it'll be like. i told my friend tonight that i feel like he hates me because i did this and she said that he could never hate me. it gave me relief for 5 seconds.

[bright lights, big city]

Sounds to me that you like him and he has some serious feelings about you. Hell, I'm confused reading about this story. I honestly would like an explanation if I was him. But overall, if this is the case

he asked me, "is this a joke?" and it broke my fucking heart. i miss him lots.

something needs to be said, probably by you. If there are mutual feelings between the two of you, I don't get why you don't give it a go.

[downtownpony]

Man girls sure do like to create a lot of unnecessary drama.

[bright lights, big city]

Man girls sure do like to create a lot of unnecessary drama.

It's another thing that grinds my gears, really.

[blixa]

this whole thing is an unnecessary drama. my heart's a mess. from the get go this whole friendship felt...staged for something more. i can't say anything to him because if i say something and he doesn't feel the same way. well, that would be devastating. maybe he truly likes me as a friend. the way he's behaved states otherwise but he said he never realised that he was giving people the wrong impression about us.

i can't tell him how i feel. i will only blabber and make it about my inadequate need to have sex with darth vader because i have THAT complex. i'm also six years older than him so my pride is completely feeling like it's being attacked. i don't want it to be. i want to tell him how i feel but i'm forever standing on the left of the stage in complete darkness.

he has created most of this drama by behaving in one way and stating he means otherwise. my confusion has become another person.

[svjchtr]

this whole thing is an unnecessary drama. my heart's a mess. from the get go this whole friendship felt...staged for something more. i can't say anything to him because if i say something and he doesn't feel the same way. well, that would be devastating. maybe he truly likes me as a friend. the way he's behaved states otherwise but he said he never realised that he was giving people the wrong impression about us.

i can't tell him how i feel. i will only blabber and make it about my inadequate need to have sex with darth vader because i have THAT complex. i'm also six years older than him so my pride is completely feeling like it's being attacked. i don't want it to be. i want to tell him how i feel but i'm forever standing on the left of the stage in complete darkness.

he has created most of this drama by behaving in one way and stating he means otherwise. my confusion has become another person.

oh hey, looks like you've got feelings for me. well, not ME, but the exact same person that i am/used to be*

simply put, everything you're describing sounds like a 3rd person description of some of my own past behavior, so let me state in no uncertain terms exactly what's going on in his head

1) he likes you. alot. as in, he wants to do the sex and cuddling and holding hands thing and everything else, not just be friends.

2) he's TERRIFIED of rejection. if given the opportunity, he'll keep trying to put himself into situations where the physical thing will "just happen". he'll pull chairs closer in hopes that the two of you will get caught up in some moment and start to make out. he'll joke about how people think that the two of you are an item in hopes that you'll say something like "hey, maybe we should be". he wants to be close to you, but he's always going to leave himself that shield of "oh I didn't really mean it that way" so that he's not fully putting himself out there.

3) if you're waiting for him to make the first move you're going to be waiting a REALLY LONG TIME. it's just not going to happen. you want it to happen, he wants it to happen, but he's too damn scared.


Advice: sounds like you're into him, so just go for it. the trick is to not confront him about the way he's been acting, since it might make him all flustered and embarrassed and that could cause him to fall back on his "hey I didn't mean any of those things in THAT way" defense. just say something like "I've been thinking about it and I think we should _____". alternately, just kiss him or something. he's utterly incapable of expressing his true feelings verbally, so you really want to avoid trying to put him on the spot. just make it so that all he has to do is "go along with it" and this internet stranger can pretty much 100% guarantee that you'll be gettin you some penis

good luck!


*: I'm trying to change, I swear. I know how terrible it is for all involved parties

[sing blue silver]

^agreed. Man the fuck up and touch his downstairs! Women are crazy making a simple situation into something SSOOOO damn complicated. The guy obviously likes you. The last thing you should do is stop the friendship if he means that much. You're gonna have to grow a pair and tell him straight up how you feel. I can almost guarantee he'll be into it. I've been in very similar situations. Trust me, you're hand and his dick just need to meet up and all problems will be solved.

[bright lights, big city]

Trust me, you're hand and his dick just need to meet up and all problems will be solved.

Wise words. And it's really all anyone on this planet needs.

[blixa]

for the last time, I AM NOT GOING TO TOUCH HIS PENIS.

this whole thing is an unnecessary drama. my heart's a mess. from the get go this whole friendship felt...staged for something more. i can't say anything to him because if i say something and he doesn't feel the same way. well, that would be devastating. maybe he truly likes me as a friend. the way he's behaved states otherwise but he said he never realised that he was giving people the wrong impression about us.

i can't tell him how i feel. i will only blabber and make it about my inadequate need to have sex with darth vader because i have THAT complex. i'm also six years older than him so my pride is completely feeling like it's being attacked. i don't want it to be. i want to tell him how i feel but i'm forever standing on the left of the stage in complete darkness.

he has created most of this drama by behaving in one way and stating he means otherwise. my confusion has become another person.

oh hey, looks like you've got feelings for me. well, not ME, but the exact same person that i am/used to be*

simply put, everything you're describing sounds like a 3rd person description of some of my own past behavior, so let me state in no uncertain terms exactly what's going on in his head

1) he likes you. alot. as in, he wants to do the sex and cuddling and holding hands thing and everything else, not just be friends.

2) he's TERRIFIED of rejection. if given the opportunity, he'll keep trying to put himself into situations where the physical thing will "just happen". he'll pull chairs closer in hopes that the two of you will get caught up in some moment and start to make out. he'll joke about how people think that the two of you are an item in hopes that you'll say something like "hey, maybe we should be". he wants to be close to you, but he's always going to leave himself that shield of "oh I didn't really mean it that way" so that he's not fully putting himself out there.

3) if you're waiting for him to make the first move you're going to be waiting a REALLY LONG TIME. it's just not going to happen. you want it to happen, he wants it to happen, but he's too damn scared.


Advice: sounds like you're into him, so just go for it. the trick is to not confront him about the way he's been acting, since it might make him all flustered and embarrassed and that could cause him to fall back on his "hey I didn't mean any of those things in THAT way" defense. just say something like "I've been thinking about it and I think we should _____". alternately, just kiss him or something. he's utterly incapable of expressing his true feelings verbally, so you really want to avoid trying to put him on the spot. just make it so that all he has to do is "go along with it" and this internet stranger can pretty much 100% guarantee that you'll be gettin you some penis

good luck!


*: I'm trying to change, I swear. I know how terrible it is for all involved parties

but i am that person too. i have never ever told anyone i liked them. i just wait till it goes away and not speak to the person involved or they tend to say something. what you're saying sounds amazing and so simple, and you know, maybe it is but this situation involves two very stubborn people who will not admit anything to each other.

i have confronted him about his flirting and the things he says and he has done exactly what you described and said, "hey, i didn't mean it like that. i'm glad you didn't take it out of context." a big part of me wishes he would admit that maybe he did mean it in that context. the issue i take with this is his age. i know that sounds horrible but there is a big gap between us. six years is...a lot. it makes me feel like the feelings i have are inappropriate. the close friends i have told about this are split. some think i've done the right thing and others think i should tell him how i feel. but i can't. i told him that we can't be friends right now. i feel lost because i'm going to see him at some point and what then? i don't even know what i'll say if he approaches me wanting to know what the hell is going on - as he should. i miss him so much and it's only been TWO DAYS.

but if he asks, am i meant to tell him how i feel? i think my biggest fear is him saying, "well, i'm sorry you feel this way because i don't like you like that." i can't phrase the fact that i have feelings for him in a positive way.

[sing blue silver]

Blixa=

[bright lights, big city]

whenever I need some cheering up, I just watch this video.

Twilight Farts

[from_musings]

it's almost impossible to stop