To tell someone that you have feelings for her...

[black coffee]

Is it usually just the two of you spending time together, or are there other people around? I find it hard to imagine that she's gonna freak out if you tell here, as long as she's not talking about her EX all the time or about someone she's totally into (and it's not you).
Maybe she's having feelings for you as well and just waiting for you to make the first step. I wouldn't know, of course. This might not be the advice you're looking for, but I would prefer trying my best and maybe losing a female friend instead of suffering in a lame boy-girl friendship where you don't get what you want anyways.

[theis]

i hope that isn't the main reason you like her because if it is then hmmm.

Oh, no no no. Not at all. She's the sweetest person ever. She's naturally beautiful and I just find that a bit intimidating.

Is it usually just the two of you spending time together, or are there other people around? I find it hard to imagine that she's gonna freak out if you tell here, as long as she's not talking about her EX all the time or about someone she's totally into (and it's not you).
Maybe she's having feelings for you as well and just waiting for you to make the first step. I wouldn't know, of course. This might not be the advice you're looking for, but I would prefer trying my best and maybe losing a female friend instead of suffering in a lame boy-girl friendship where you don't get what you want anyways.

A lot of the times it's just her and me. Sure, there are occasions where my other friends join, but she's so easy to be around that it never gets awkward when it's just her and me. As far as I know, she's not into anyone else. She doesn't talk about any other guys.

It's just hard to figure out how to say it. I think we'll start out with watching a movie and after that I'd have to say something. Something along "hey, before you go I need to tell you something...etc"...

[Jacob]

that, or slip her some roofies.

[No More Sugar]

explain to her in great detail about how your daily functions have been interrupted by the mere thought of her beauty. tell her that you only know one thing for sure, is that she makes you the happiest person in the world...

good luck man.

[Crazylegs]

explain to her in great detail about how your daily functions have been interrupted by the mere thought of her beauty. tell her that you only know one thing for sure, is that she makes you the happiest person in the world...

maybe not.

[theis]

explain to her in great detail about how your daily functions have been interrupted by the mere thought of her beauty. tell her that you only know one thing for sure, is that she makes you the happiest person in the world...

Ha. If I wanted to freak the living shit out of her, then yes, I'd say that.

[blixa]

when are you planning to tell her? please tell us what happens. goodluck but i don't reckon you'll need it. she'll jump your bones for sure hahaha.

[theis]

I'm not really sure what I'm gonna say.

It's hard to plan something like that word for word. I hope it just comes to me.

[No More Sugar]

So you're gonna tell her she doesn't make you happy? Defeats the purpose of what your trying to do in my opinion, which is press her to see if she has any of the same feelings as you do. The daily functions thing was a joke, but it can be used as an additive if you need some extra umph if she asks you why. I meant like tell her you lie in bed trying to fall asleep thinking about you know...the next time you will see her, things of that nature.

and yes, the best thing to do is not to plan it. just let it happen.

[theis]

Yeah I know what you mean. I just don't wanna make it sound too overwhelming.

[blixa]

don't plan it. i agree with that. just tell her when you feel it is best. preferably if you guys are out for a walk or something.

[theis]

Hmm, it's freezing here so a walk is probably out of the question, hehe.

I think we're gonna watch a movie and then I'll say something afterwards.

[raynor]

remember to bring a bottle of red wine!

[theis]

Nah, I'm gonna keep it sober. I think that's the best way.

[blixa]

oh to feel so purely about someone. i have a thing for this guy at work but it's mostly based on the fact that i want to fuck his brains out with lustful violently good sex.

[nonesuch]

tell her that you would climb the highest mountains, swim across the biggest oceans, leap the tallest buildings, bend the strongest metal, read the longest book, cure the most lethal disease, clean up the most pollution, descend into the deepest cavern, discover the oldest civilazation, travel to the farthest star, eat the sloppiest joe, yodle into eternal echo, shop for the best discounts, lie under the deepest oath, purge the most digested lunch, nap through the hottest afternoon, swallow the biggest horse tranquilizer, hopscotch the longest distance, borrow her favorite movie, design the most form fitting pair of pants, rob the richest liquor store, discuss the most complex political matters, pinch the most massive loaf, brick the most basketballs, spin the longest yarn, sheer the fattest sheep, listen to the most banal nagging, betray the deepest loyalty, differentiate the most like patterns, dissolve the most lipophilic solute, stir the thickest stew

for her love

[raynor]

Nah, I'm gonna keep it sober. I think that's the best way.

I'm not saying you should get hammered but it's good to set the mood. It's all up to you though. Good luck!

[Jacob]

Nah, I'm gonna keep it sober. I think that's the best way.

I'm not saying you should get hammered but it's good to set the mood. It's all up to you though. Good luck!

yeah, a glass of wine won't get anyone drunk but will relax you and set the mood.

[theis]

I'll drink some wine at dinner.

She'd definitely think it was weird if I opened up a bottle of wine on a Wednesday, haha.

[lostpilot]

be brave, my dear friend Theis, be brave!

but all in all, just try not to be nervous. I mean, yes, this is a big thing etc, but still - you should just keep it cool.
I'm pretty sure she won't hate you or something if you'll laugh a little about yourself being nervous etc.

when in relationship with my girlfriend, we have this very interesting moments when we express our feelings towards each other, but usually she knows that I get very awkward and shy when talking about my feelings; so I just go on and tell her - "get ready, this is going to be weird" and then something like "I want to have ten thousand babies with you" follow.

even though it's not your usual "I love like adore would totally brainlessly fuck your brains out you", but it still pleases me and my girlfriend. we're both kinda too relationship-observant and have quite the same views on cheesy romance etc, so in our relationship we've just kinda skipped the whole "roses and wine" phase and jumped right into "couple" phase. weirdly enough..