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[oneloveforchi]

i have been f'ed over by friends before and i think when that happened i pulled back alot.. you know.. fear of being hurt blah blah.. ya i am a girl.. so what.. but you know? it sucks. and when this all happened - i knew doing all this for chi... shit... i would never get hurt. so my love just flowed out HUGE... nice to be able to give your whole heart to something when you know there is no way you can get hurt.

so... what yr saying is.... thanks to those bad friends then? if they hadent fucked u over in the past your love wouldt flow as much right now? should we send them flowers`?

J - don't put words in my mouth. the answer to questions above are NO and YES it would flow the SAME and NO...

J - you always have some whack way of looking at things.. and if you don't relate to my crap - it's all good. i was just sharing my feelings.. which - ya i wasn't thinking about you coming along to do your thing. i am starting to recognize the patterns..

and no J - not "thanks to those bad friends" for being bad.. wtf is your deal? are you the community shit stirrer? i mean you still look at this as "chi getting cash" like he is on a freaking vacation right now or some crap. you find humor in the weirdest things.

and no my love isn't flowing ONLY cuz they F'ed me... and  I wouldn't even call them "evil friends" - just people who ended up taking advantage....    and ALL i was saying it is just nice to DO for someone else without the FEAR of getting screwed.. (you very obviously can't relate??). also.. even if i was never screwed in the past i still would have done this and never would have been reserved in.... wtf am i doing.?... geez..... i got better shit to do...

wtf was i thinking? think what you want J. it's all good. i am sure the majority of the forum was nowhere near thinking what you do...

one love for chi,
gina

[oneloveforchi]

(just to let u know.. im working on a www.oneloveforginasbadfriends.com... up shortly)

whatever 

[oneloveforchi]

new post from chi's aunt mary: http://oneloveforchi.com/index.php/category/chi-cheng-news/

one love for chi, 
gina

[oneloveforchi]

new post from chi's aunt mary: http://oneloveforchi.com/index.php/category/chi-cheng-news/

one love for chi, 
gina

[jesusinabowlofdirt]

J - don't put words in my mouth. the answer to questions above are NO and YES it would flow the SAME and NO...

J - you always have some whack way of looking at things.. and if you don't relate to my crap - it's all good. i was just sharing my feelings.. which - ya i wasn't thinking about you coming along to do your thing. i am starting to recognize the patterns..

and no J - not "thanks to those bad friends" for being bad.. wtf is your deal? are you the community shit stirrer? i mean you still look at this as "chi getting cash" like he is on a freaking vacation right now or some crap. you find humor in the weirdest things.

and no my love isn't flowing ONLY cuz they F'ed me... and  I wouldn't even call them "evil friends" - just people who ended up taking advantage....    and ALL i was saying it is just nice to DO for someone else without the FEAR of getting screwed.. (you very obviously can't relate??). also.. even if i was never screwed in the past i still would have done this and never would have been reserved in.... wtf am i doing.?... geez..... i got better shit to do...

wtf was i thinking? think what you want J. it's all good. i am sure the majority of the forum was nowhere near thinking what you do...

one love for chi,
gina

"and no my love isn't flowing ONLY cuz they F'ed me."  - but u admit that their bad actions towards u played a little part for yr now positive enegry? thats my point... like a thought experiment. good things come out of bad things and chi now gets the good thing in the end, im ALL for it. sorry if i offended u

(but i dont think im that wrong.just saying its funny how life turns out)

[jesusinabowlofdirt]

I'm sorry if I misunderstood you then 

obviously.. u didnt,.... apperently - i was totally evil

[Jesus2Chino]

Jesusinabowlofdirt--again, it is just your approach to things that's offensive. The thought isn't offensive, but you didn't have to make a snarky joke out of it.  To say, for example, "I think it's cool to think that even the negative people in your life could have contributed to your love for others," would have been a welcome thought. But , "(just to let u know.. im working on a www.oneloveforginasbadfriends.com... up shortly)." That's just rude and uncalled for man. You talk around things a lot, but in the end you have to just take responsibility for being rude. Your brief apology can't be heart felt when followed with, ".. apperently - i was totally evil." There's no need to talk about it, and there's no need to make this a two page discussion. I think it would be totally in line, because you've clearly offended someone, to just say something along the lines of, "Hey, I'm sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to," and just leave it at that. Don't weaken it with a sarcastic comment in the following post, just leave it a lone at that. No matter how much you talk around it, you're not going to shake the fact that what you said was rude. More talk isn't going to change that, as anyone reading this can clearly see that it was rude. If I came to your house, ringed the bell, and spit in your face, you won't let me walk away after I explain how I was just thinking that it was funny as a social experiment. I'm not trying to be conflictive, but please, just apologize and give the lip service a rest--it would be best for everyone involved.

Much respect,
-Matt

[jesusinabowlofdirt]

youre right, good post. i do have to think about how my things come out. im not in middle of this chi chaos in the same way so i have to think about what iu say to people who is right in it. but if i meant it to be that harmful ive wouldnt say anything. sorry

[oneloveforchi]

J - don't put words in my mouth. the answer to questions above are NO and YES it would flow the SAME and NO...

J - you always have some whack way of looking at things.. and if you don't relate to my crap - it's all good. i was just sharing my feelings.. which - ya i wasn't thinking about you coming along to do your thing. i am starting to recognize the patterns..

and no J - not "thanks to those bad friends" for being bad.. wtf is your deal? are you the community shit stirrer? i mean you still look at this as "chi getting cash" like he is on a freaking vacation right now or some crap. you find humor in the weirdest things.

and no my love isn't flowing ONLY cuz they F'ed me... and  I wouldn't even call them "evil friends" - just people who ended up taking advantage....    and ALL i was saying it is just nice to DO for someone else without the FEAR of getting screwed.. (you very obviously can't relate??). also.. even if i was never screwed in the past i still would have done this and never would have been reserved in.... wtf am i doing.?... geez..... i got better shit to do...

wtf was i thinking? think what you want J. it's all good. i am sure the majority of the forum was nowhere near thinking what you do...

one love for chi,
gina

"and no my love isn't flowing ONLY cuz they F'ed me."  - but u admit that their bad actions towards u played a little part for yr now positive enegry? thats my point... like a thought experiment. good things come out of bad things and chi now gets the good thing in the end, im ALL for it. sorry if i offended u

(but i dont think im that wrong.just saying its funny how life turns out)

J -  i can not admit that bad actions played a roll in my efforts to help chi...  but i will go as far to admit good things do come out out of bad experiences.. for example.. if this accident wouldn't have happened to chi (wish it would not have) but IF it had not.. i would not have had the priviledge of meeting so many awesome people via sharing lungs, myspace etc. i have seriously made some life long friends thru this journey.

i won't allow myself to be offended by your comments because i know my intentions are true and come from love.

so anyway.. let's just move on. this is about chi... not what you think of me. PM me if you have other issues. spare the community.

it's all good.

one love for chi,
gina

[oneloveforchi]

Jesusinabowlofdirt--again, it is just your approach to things that's offensive. The thought isn't offensive, but you didn't have to make a snarky joke out of it.  To say, for example, "I think it's cool to think that even the negative people in your life could have contributed to your love for others," would have been a welcome thought. But , "(just to let u know.. im working on a www.oneloveforginasbadfriends.com... up shortly)." That's just rude and uncalled for man. You talk around things a lot, but in the end you have to just take responsibility for being rude. Your brief apology can't be heart felt when followed with, ".. apperently - i was totally evil." There's no need to talk about it, and there's no need to make this a two page discussion. I think it would be totally in line, because you've clearly offended someone, to just say something along the lines of, "Hey, I'm sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to," and just leave it at that. Don't weaken it with a sarcastic comment in the following post, just leave it a lone at that. No matter how much you talk around it, you're not going to shake the fact that what you said was rude. More talk isn't going to change that, as anyone reading this can clearly see that it was rude. If I came to your house, ringed the bell, and spit in your face, you won't let me walk away after I explain how I was just thinking that it was funny as a social experiment. I'm not trying to be conflictive, but please, just apologize and give the lip service a rest--it would be best for everyone involved.

Much respect,
-Matt

thanks matt.

much love,
gina

[jesusinabowlofdirt]

If I came to your house, ringed the bell, and spit in your face, you won't let me walk away after I explain how I was just thinking that it was funny as a social experiment.

but my experiment wasnt to be cruel,it was a tought that in the end turned out idiotic. alright ENOUGH 

[Jacob]

can't check it here at work. what's new?

[pixElsblUr]

jesus is just fucking around Gina, I mean I don't know the dude but I sense it's all in good humor, act right jesus.... joder!

[oneloveforchi]

jesus is just fucking around Gina, I mean I don't know the dude but I sense it's all in good humor, act right jesus.... joder!

ya - i know... it's all good.

thanks.

[Hidalgo]

If I came to your house, ringed the bell, and spit in your face, you won't let me walk away after I explain how I was just thinking that it was funny as a social experiment.

but my experiment wasnt to be cruel,it was a tought that in the end turned out idiotic. alright ENOUGH 

just stop, you have derailed. be good

[Martin]

Soooo...back to the topic then? Right.
Chi.

[oneloveforchi]

SO.. anyway... Travis Barker from Blink 182 Twittered about OneLOveForChi.com http://twitter.com/trvsbrkr

Traffic is going off!

One Love For Chi,
Gina

[pixElsblUr]

very cool, I went to high school with him

[oneloveforchi]

can't check it here at work. what's new?

here you go...

First, I want to tell all of you who have been supporting Dai with your love, your stories, your donations, your prayers, your precious time and energy – how much it lifts and strengthens the family.  Dai listens to your messages of encouragement.  He knows.  It helps all of us more than I can say.

I am his Aunt Mary.  I read the stories you post about Dai and I think, yup – that's Dai!  He has been doing those acts of kindness and generosity since he was a little guy – since he could reach out to give away his cookie or his toy.  He was such a loving and compassionate kid, and he has never lost that.  I've been happy for his successes, but so proud of him for retaining his generous and sincere nature, and for being such an awesome dad, and loving son and brother.

My sister, Jeanne, is my best friend.  She is indefatigable in her determination to bring Dai through this.  I have always felt like her kids were my kids, too.  For my daughter, Michelle, spending time with her cousins was the joy of her childhood.   I try to spend as much time with Jeanne and Dai as I can – I try to make it there every weekend, but like so many of us, I feel limited and frustrated in the scope of what I'm able to do.  I want to do more, to make a difference in his recovery, and to support those who are closest to him.   So I do what I can to love and encourage and support Dai and the family.

The Chengs are a close, loving family — very funny and high energy.  The kids have such a strong bond.  The family is all pulling together, and supporting each other.  Mae and Ming and Jeanne and Gabriel and Jeff and Alice have been able to be here most consistently and  Dai really responds to them.  He is surrounded by love.

Dai is getting such wonderful care from the family and the hospital staff.  (No talk about  insurance companies here, cause I don't want to go negative – grrrrr!)  But Dai is fighting one very tough battle after another –from the initial trauma and surgeries, to the fevers and pneumonia that he has had to fight off.  And he does fight.  It must be terribly frustrating for him, because we can see that he understands what is going on, that he wants to respond, but his brain isn't making all the connections yet.  Healing is a painfully slow process.   But he is making progress.

I am so touched and grateful for the incredible loyalty and devotion of Dai's immediate and extended and world-wide family.  Gina, you have made such a major difference to all the Chengs.  We are so grateful for your efforts every day.  I will be so happy when I finally get to meet you, my sister.  You are helping us all – Dai, his parents and sibs, the extended family, the world-wide family, the wonderful caring people who have started pages and blogs and on-line cards.  It is truly inspiring to witness so many people, who were touched by Dai in some way, reaching out to touch him when he needs them.  When he wakes up, he will have a story to tell, and stories to hear about the loving people who remembered his kindnesses.

One Love For Chi...
Aunt Mary

[Sugartolove]

Chi, Gina, Chi's family - anyone involved - Been thinking all day about Chi's new treatment maybe starting tomorrow... I am so thrilled and anxious just thinking about it... I will pray as hard as I can that this will be the start of a new chapter in Chi's recovery, and that in time it will lead to great things. I am aware that it will probably still take time. Patience is a keyword in all aspects of his journey back to us...

Best of luck to you all...
<3

Amazing about Travis by the way - if more well known people could be more like him..
Hope he recovers fully from his plane crash.